Your feelings and choices are worthy of respect, but this issue involves complex ethical and psychological aspects and may require more in-depth discussion. The following are some thinking angles for your reference： ### 1. **Self-care is the foundation of health** -Caring for yourself and prioritizing your own needs are an important part of mental health. Only when you are in good shape yourself can you really help others or build healthy relationships. This is not selfishness, but a necessary condition for self-preservation. ### 2. **Sociality is a human instinct** -Humans are social animals, and completely ignoring others may bring loneliness or disconnection from society. Studies have shown that moderate altruistic behavior can enhance personal well-being and sense of meaning in life. ### 3. **Balance is the key** -Not caring about others at all may cause interpersonal relationships to break down, and even affect practical aspects such as work and life. You can try to find a balance between "self-care" and "empathy for others", such as： -Set clear personal boundaries -Distinguish between "altruism" and "excessive sacrifice" -Selectively invest in emotions (for example, only care about the people who really matter) ### 4. **Reflection on potential causes** -Does this mentality stem from past injuries? If so, you may need to deal with these emotional traumas first. Temporary self-closure may be a protective mechanism, but in the long run, moderate openness may be more conducive to growth. ### 5. **Cultural perspective** -Western culture emphasizes individualism more, while Eastern culture emphasizes collectivism more. There is no absolute right or wrong, but knowing the source of one's values helps to make choices more autonomously. ### 6. **Risk of polarization** -Only caring about yourself at all may feel safe in the short term, but it may lead to long-term problems.： -Miss the satisfaction of deep interpersonal relationships -Weak social support system -The limitations of self-awareness (others are sometimes like mirrors, helping us to understand ourselves more comprehensively) **Suggestion**: You can try to start with small things, such as doing a small altruistic behavior every week (even if it's just saying thank you to the waiter), and observe how you feel. True self-care should include "making yourself the person you want to be"-and your thinking on this issue itself has shown your introspection ability. In the end, the answer depends on how you define the "right" standard and what kind of life you want to build. One of the standards of mental health is to be able to flexibly switch between "focusing on yourself" and "connecting with others", rather than clinging to a certain extreme.