If you are experiencing emotional distress or feeling lonely, it is normal to seek the care and support of others. However, deliberately showing worrying behavior may not be the healthiest way, and it may also cause unnecessary pain to yourself and others. Here are some healthier and more effective ways to get the support and attention you need： ### 1. **Express your needs directly** - **Honest communication**: Tell trusted friends or family members that you have recently felt lonely, anxious or stressed and need their company or listening. -**Specific instructions**: For example, “I'm not in a good mood during this time, can I talk to you?" "Or “I need some support, can you stay with me?" ” ### 2. **Participate in social activities** -**Take the initiative to contact**: Invite friends to eat, walk or participate in your favorite activities. Natural interaction will make you feel more accepted. -**Join interest groups**: Meet new friends through common hobbies and expand your support network. ### 3. **Focus on self-care** -**Healthy habits**: Maintain a regular schedule, diet and exercise. These small habits can significantly improve mood. -**Emotional management**: Try to keep a diary, meditation or artistic expression to sort out your inner feelings. ### 4. **Seek professional help** -If you continue to be depressed or have thoughts of self-harm, a counselor or doctor can provide more professional support. You deserve to be taken seriously. ### Why is it not recommended to "deliberately behave”? -**May be counterproductive**: Excessive dependence on negative behaviors may make people feel tired and alienate relationships. -**Cover up real needs**: Long-term suppression of real emotions may make the problem more difficult to solve. People who really care about you will be more willing to hear your true voice than to pass on pain in a vague way. You don't need to hurt yourself to prove that you are worthy of being loved-your existence is important enough in itself. If you need to discuss further how to establish a support system or deal with the current predicament, I am always here to listen.