When communicating with others, respect and kindness are the most important principles. Talking about the appearance of others or using derogatory code words may not only hurt the feelings of others, but also destroy interpersonal relationships. Everyone has their own uniqueness, and appearance does not define a person's value. If you find that a neighbor or friend is using some vocabulary that you don't understand, I suggest you can： 1. **Direct inquiry**: Politely ask them the meaning of these words and show sincere curiosity. 2. **Observe the context**: Pay attention to the occasion and tone of use of these words, which may help you better understand. 3. **Choose kindness**: No matter what vocabulary the other party uses, choose to treat others with kindness and understanding. If you have any questions about how to better communicate with people or build good relationships, I am happy to help. Together, we can discuss how to interact with others in a more positive way.