There is no one-size-fits-all answer to the question of whether couples should give up their careers to take care of their families after marriage, because it involves many factors such as personal values, family needs, economic conditions, and cultural background. The following are some key points to consider for reference： --- ### 1. **Equality and consultation are the core** -The sharing of family responsibilities should be based on equal consultation between husband and wife, not unilateral sacrifices. Whether it is a career or housework/parenting, you need to participate together. Modern society encourages breaking traditional gender roles and flexibly adjusting according to the interests, abilities and actual needs of both parties. -**Key issues**： -Whose career stage is more critical (such as the rising stage, the entrepreneurial stage)? -Whose salary or work flexibility is more suitable for taking into account the family? -Do both parties have common values (such as the importance they attach to "career success" or "family companionship")? --- ### 2. **Risk of giving up your career completely** -**Economic dependence**: One party's complete separation from the workplace may lead to a decrease in the family's risk resistance, and may also affect the long-term career development and financial independence of the individual. -**Psychological level**: Some people gain a sense of accomplishment and social circle through their careers, and leaving the workplace may lead to a reduced sense of self-worth. -**Case **: Many full-time housewives/husbands face problems such as skills disconnection and age discrimination when they return to the workplace in the later stage, and they need to plan in advance. --- ### 3. **The possibility of taking into account** -**Flexible working mode**: Telecommuting, freelance work, flexible working hours, etc. can be used as a compromise. -**Sharing and outsourcing**: Housework and childcare can be shared, or stress can be reduced through outsourcing services (such as cleaning and childcare). -**Phased adjustment**: For example, reduce the workload in the early stages of parenting and return to the workplace after the child enters school. --- ### 4. **Cultural and social factors** -In some societies with strong traditional concepts, women may be the main force of the family by default, but more and more families choose to challenge this division of labor. The key is to conform to the wishes of both spouses, not to cater to external expectations. -Policy support (such as maternity leave and childcare subsidies) will also affect choices. You need to understand the welfare resources in your location. --- ### 5. **Child's needs** -Studies have shown that the healthy growth of children requires stable companionship and high-quality interaction, rather than relying solely on the full-time care of one parent. The key is how to balance "time investment" and "emotional quality". --- ### Summary suggestion： - **Open communication**: Regularly discuss the expectations of both parties for their careers and families to avoid accumulating complaints. -**Dynamic adjustment**: Flexibly respond according to different stages of the family (such as the age of the child and the health status of the elderly). -**The trap of refusing to sacrifice**: Avoid treating a certain party's contribution as "deserved" and recognize each other's value (whether it is economic contribution or family labor). -**Reserve a way out**: If one party chooses to temporarily leave the workplace, they can maintain their studies, contacts or part-time jobs to prepare for the future. **Final answer**: There is no standard for "should" or "should not", only "suitable" and "unsuitable". A healthy marriage does not require one party to give up on oneself, but to find a balance through cooperation, so that both people can realize their own value in the family and career.