In interpersonal communication, showing disdain for the body or appearance of others is often easy to cause harm and even destroy each other's relationship. If you have a different view of someone's posture, a more mature approach is to reflect on your own criteria for judging, or choose to communicate in a respectful and kind manner. Here are some more positive suggestions： ### 1. **Avoid judgment and focus on the inside** -Instead of paying attention to appearance, it is better to pay more attention to the opponent's personality, abilities, or hobbies. For example: "The book you shared recently is very interesting. Can you talk more about your thoughts?" " -Replace silent criticism with sincere compliments, such as: "The color you are wearing today matches you very well!" " ### 2. **Use actions to convey the concept of health (if necessary)** -If the other party takes the initiative to mention health or physical problems, you can share your positive habits instead of evaluating the other party. For example: "I recently started trying to hike every week and I feel better energetic. Do you want to be together? " -Avoid using the sentence "you should...", but encourage joint action by invitation. ### 3. **Reflect on your attitude** -Ask yourself: Does this kind of judgment stem from prejudice or social stereotypes? Does the other person's posture really affect you or others? -Try empathy: If someone secretly evaluates your appearance, how would you feel? ### 4. **Direct communication (only when necessary)** -If the opponent's posture does affect health or others (such as teamwork), you can euphemistically express concern rather than criticism. For example: "I noticed that you seem to be tired easily recently. Do you need to talk together?" " ### Why is it recommended to avoid subtle "disdain"? -**Hurtful**: Even if it is not directly expressed, micro-expressions, tone of voice, or evasive attitude may still be detected and destroy trust. -**Self-growth**: Learning to accept differences is a sign of improved emotional intelligence, and it also allows you to focus more on the truly important interpersonal connections. The true cultivation lies in resolving prejudices in good faith, not in conveying negative emotions in a vague way. If the other party is not malicious or has not affected others, perhaps tolerance and respect are better choices.