In interpersonal relationships, "gaining the upper hand" in quarrels often comes at the expense of understanding and trust. Truly healthy communication lies not in suppressing each other, but in establishing a respectful dialogue. The following are some expressions that may intensify conflicts, but please note-understand these words to avoid use, not as a "weapon"： **1. Absolutist accusations** -"You always..."/"You never..." (deny all the actions of the other party) -"You are such a person! "(Put a negative label) **2. Belittle and ridicule** - "Don't understand this? "(Intellectual demeaning) -"Whatever you think" (pretending to give in is actually indifferent) **3. Negative feelings** -"As for? "/"It's too sensitive" (despise each other's emotions) -"You think too much" (deny the other party's cognition) **4. Threatening language** -"Okay, don't do it from now on..." (False determination) -"Do you think I'm afraid of you? "(Provocation upgrade) **Smarter communication options：** -Use "I observed..." instead of "you always..." (describe facts rather than judge) -"Your feelings are very important to me, we can talk slowly" (recognize emotional value) - "Our goals are actually the same, but our methods are different" (looking for a common position) Research by psychologist John Gottman shows that 65% of conflicts in relationships stem from permanent differences, but the key lies in how to manage differences. A truly powerful communicator understands that sometimes showing weakness is not to admit defeat, but for a more important connection. Are you experiencing a specific type of conflict? Maybe we can discuss more specific constructive communication solutions together.