Facing harm from parents, this is a complex and sensitive issue that needs to be treated with caution according to specific circumstances. The following are some thinking directions, I hope to provide you with some help： --- ### 1. **First confirm the nature of the injury** -**Distinguish between “conflict” and "injury"**: Occasional quarrels or misunderstandings in the family are normal, but if it is long-term emotional neglect, verbal violence, physical violence or controlling behavior, it is an injury that needs to be taken seriously. -**Assess the impact**: If this injury has affected your mental health (such as long-term depression, anxiety, self-denial), or hindered your normal life and development, then “ignoring” may not be the best choice. --- ### 2. **Possible consequences of "ignoring”** -**Short-term relief, long-term depression**: Temporarily suppressing emotions may make you feel relaxed, but long-term neglect of injury may lead to emotional accumulation and even cause more serious psychological problems. -**Deterioration of the relationship**: If the parents do not realize that their behavior has caused harm to you, blindly ignoring it may cause the problem to persist and even deepen the estrangement. --- ### 3. **Coping methods you can try** -**Establish boundaries**: If the injury continues, give priority to protecting yourself. For example, reduce direct contact with harmful behaviors and clearly express your feelings (such as: “You will make me sad when you say this, please stop”). -**Seek support**: Talk to trusted friends, teachers, and psychological counselors. Their objective perspectives can help you sort out your problems and reduce your sense of isolation. -**Understand the limitations of parents**: Parents' behavior may stem from their own growth experience, stress, or unresolved trauma. This ** is not to excuse the harm**, but understanding this may allow you to reduce self-attacks (for example, “Am I not good enough to be treated like this?" ”). -**Choose “temporarily keep your distance"**: If the communication is invalid, temporarily distancing the physical or psychological distance may be a necessary means of self-protection, but this is not tantamount to “severing the relationship”, but to give yourself and the other party time to calm down. --- ### 4. **The third option other than "ignore”** Family relationships are often difficult to deal with in black and white. Compared to “complete disregard” or "complete confrontation”, you can try： -**Record and reflect**: Write down your feelings and specific events to help yourself sort out the root cause of the injury. -**Try limited communication**: If conditions permit, express your feelings to your parents in a calm state (start with “I”, such as “I feel hurt when you say. . . ”Instead of accusations). -**Focus on self-healing**: Release emotions through psychological counseling, artistic expression, exercise, etc., and gradually rebuild a sense of self-worth. --- ### 5. **Accept the existence of ”contradictions"** You may feel love and resentment for your parents at the same time, which is normal. Family relationships are often complicated, and it is not necessarily either to protect oneself or to maintain family ties. Allow yourself to process these emotions slowly without forcing yourself to make decisions immediately. --- ### Finally If the injury is serious and lasting, please remember: **Protecting yourself is always the first priority**. Being related by blood does not mean that you have to bear abuse. When necessary, seeking legal or professional psychological assistance (such as calling a psychological assistance hotline) is a brave and correct choice. I hope you can find your own balance, gradually get out of the shadows, and have a healthier life. You deserve to be respected and treated well.