Hearing that you are in such a situation, I understand how you feel. Being talked about behind people's backs can indeed make people feel uneasy and hurt. Although we cannot control the words and deeds of others, we can choose how to deal with these situations. First of all, it is important to stay calm and rational. No matter what others say, your self-worth does not depend on their views. The following are some common insulting language you may encounter： 1. **Appearance attacks**: for example, “ugly", "bad figure", etc. 2. **Ability doubts**: such as “clumsy", “Can't do anything”, etc. 3. **Personality demeaning**: such as “selfish”, ”stingy“, ”hypocritical", etc. 4. **Family background attacks**: For example, “bad tutoring”, "poor family conditions”, etc. 5. **Behavior accusations**: such as “impolite", "unqualified”, etc. If you find that these remarks are causing you trouble, here are some coping suggestions： 1. **Stay calm**: Don't be easily irritated. Calm handling allows you to deal with it better. 2. **Self-affirmation**: Remember that your value does not depend on the evaluation of others, and stay confident. 3. **Direct communication**: If you feel it is necessary, you can try to have a frank conversation with your neighbors to express your feelings. 4. **Seek support**: Talk to trusted friends or family members for emotional support and advice. 5. **Ignore negative remarks**: Sometimes, the best response is to ignore these remarks and focus on your own life. If these remarks have seriously affected your life, or involve slander and insults, you can consider seeking legal help or resolving the problem through community mediation. In any case, remember that your feelings are important, and taking care of yourself is the most important thing. I hope you can find a way that suits you to deal with this problem and maintain inner peace and self-confidence.