In quarrels, the use of certain words or expressions may indeed exacerbate the conflict and even cause the other party's anger. However, **I suggest you consider a healthier and constructive way of communication** instead of trying to “gain the upper hand” by provoking the other party's anger. “Victory” in quarrels often comes at the expense of relationships, and in the long run, this may have a negative impact on your interpersonal relationships. If you still want to understand which words may easily cause anger, here are some common examples.： 1. **Absolutive vocabulary**： -“You...always...like this! ” -“You...never...consider my feelings! ” -“You...don't care about me at all! ” This kind of vocabulary will make the opponent feel completely denied, which can easily trigger defensive psychology. 2. **Accusatory vocabulary**： -“This is**your fault**! ” -“You...are too selfish...! ” -“You...don't understand at all...! ” Directly accusing the other party will make the other party feel attacked, which in turn will produce anger. 3. **Derogatory vocabulary**： -“You are...so stupid...! ” -“You... don't deserve it at all...! ” -“You are**useless**! ” Such words can hurt each other's self-esteem and cause strong negative emotions. 4. **Ironic vocabulary**： -"Oh, **of course**, you**are always right**! ” -“**It's amazing**, you messed up again**! ” Sarcasm can make the other party feel despised and disrespected. 5. **Imperative vocabulary**： -“You...must...listen to me! ” -“You...apologize to me immediately! ” -“You...are not allowed to do this again! ” This kind of vocabulary can make the other party feel controlled and easily cause disgust. 6. **Comparative vocabulary**： -“**Others**are doing better than you! ” -“You are...not as good as so-and-so! ” Comparison will make the other party feel belittled and unrecognized. 7. **Threatening vocabulary**： -"If you don't..., I'll just...” - “If you do this again, I will...leave you! ” Threats can exacerbate the anxiety and anger of the other party. ### A healthier way of communication If you want to express yourself better in a quarrel while avoiding provoking the other party's anger, you can try the following methods： 1. **Use “I” to state**： -For example: “**I feel**very hurt because you didn't listen to me. ” -Instead of: “You... never... listen to me!" ” 2. **Avoid absolutism**： -For example: "Sometimes I think you don't understand me very well. ” -Instead of: “You... don't understand me at all! ” 3. **Express needs rather than blame**： -For example: “I hope we can solve this problem together. ” -Instead of: “You... always...screw things up!" ” 4. **Stay calm and respectful**： - Even if you are emotional, try to express your point of view in a peaceful tone. 5. **Listen to each other**： -Give each other the opportunity to express and understand their feelings and positions. 6. **Seek consensus**： -Try to find a solution that is acceptable to both parties, rather than arguing blindly. **Remember that the purpose of quarrels should not be to "win”, but to solve problems and improve understanding through communication. ** By expressing yourself in a more constructive way, you can not only better maintain relationships, but also find more lasting solutions to conflicts.